Learn To Date: All About Approaching Women

***COMMENT***

hey dave
just to let you know that your stuff is genius...Ive never had so much success before. I used to do EXACTLY what not to do, in fact i didnt do anything right. You see I was the "Nice Guy" I kissed girls asses to make them like me, and i could never figure out why they acted ignorant and ignored me. Now thanks to you man i figured out what I did wrong. I now have confidence and i am willing to talk to chicks i never would before. Just wanted to thank you for all you have done for us, i speak for everyone when I say that you are the man. I hope that every man knows this stuff, but if not more women for us right?
-J

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Thanks for your email.
I know, I know... it's soooo easy to do the wrong things with women and NOT EVEN REALIZE THAT YOU'RE DOING THEM. Unless you get clued-in about how this game works, it's very difficult to figure this stuff out by "trial and error". Keep up the great work.

***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,
I downloaded your book and all I can say is WOW! I was blind and now I see. I've always been known as a "nice" guy and looking back I can see how much of a wuss I really was. Here's the story. Some friends of mine and I go on a camping trip every year. This year one guy brought a surprisingly attractive 20-something with him.(I'm 36). Later that night she and I were the last ones sitting around the fire after everyone else had crashed. We had a few drinks and I found out that she and my friend were not a couple. Then she came out and said that she knew that I was attracted to her but that I "wasn't her type". Before your book I would have become embarrassed and tucked my tail between my legs and fled. Instead I turned it around on her and started busting her balls using C&F. We ended up talking until the sun came up and when it came time for her and my friend to leave she asked me if I had a pen. She gave me her phone #(I never even asked for it) and asked me for mine. That never would have happened in my previous life! Everyone out there: Get this book!
Thanks Dave!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, isn't it exciting when you do something that you NEVER would have done in the past... and it WORKS!?

Of course, you're just getting started... you're going to take things to a whole new level, I'm sure. Just make sure that you don't start calling this girl every 20 minutes, and that you give her space to miss you and think about you. Keep it up.

***QUESTION***

Hey
,I have been a subscriber of your newsletter for a while now. I have pretty much perfected your techniques and have had tremendous success with them. One thing I recently realized is that after you have them hooked you can keep them on the line even more by using strange timing for telephone calls etc. What I mean by this is that I have found it beneficial to return their calls at weird hours when you wouldn't expect them to be home or awake if they are so that you leave a message. Then when they call about half the time all I do is pick up the phone and say "can't talk sorry bye," hang up, and go back to watching sportscenter. The girls who are calling obviously want to see more of you, so being hard to reach makes the game all the livelier. If you mix being hard to reach with the occasional phone call it seems like a shortcut to taking it to a more physical level because they aren't sure when they will see you next. I was wondering if you have used this and if you think it is a good idea or if there is some unforeseen way this could backfire?
Thanks.
Z

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You horrible man!

You actually tell women that you're BUSY, and hang up so you can go back to watching SPORTSCENTER? You're killing me over here.

I can't believe it, I think you're one of about five men alive that have gotten to the point where you don't need to stop everything just for a little attention from a woman! Hell, I'm starting to feel attracted to you.

Easy, boy.

You are doing EXACTLY the right things. Keep it up.

Being unpredictable, hard to reach, and mysterious is MAGIC when it comes to creating ATTRACTION. Of course, no technique is perfect, and if you do these things long enough you will have something come up as a result. But overall, this is a WINNING combination. If and when you do have a problem or setback, don't worry about it. These things happen. You'll have so much success that it won't matter. As a side note, I want to mention a quick little something...
I think that there's a line between doing things that make women feel attracted to you so you can enjoy a more interesting romantic life and actually give women what they want...

And using the ideas you're learning purely to manipulate women into doing things.

Most women would really prefer if guys would do this stuff and be more interesting, but there's a danger of using this information, and making people into toys. I honestly believe that you can live whatever lifestyle you want... all the way from dating several women at a time to being married for years... and still do it with integrity and honesty. Do the right thing, and be a good guy.

***QUESTION***

David,
Hey there! Thanks for the tips/advice so far. I have an interesting story about an amazing girl i met online... we started chatting and we hit it off so well that we chatted for many hours the first day and by the end of the second day she wanted me to call her and i did and then by the end of the week she wanted to meet me and she came over to my house and well we kinda got straight into it (everything but sex)...anyways the next day i called her and we were still talking pretty hot and heavy etc...and we kept this up for a couple of days and we were supposed to meet again (to go to a movie) but then she backed out and said she wanted to slow it down...i kinda figured this was the end of it and i was feelign pretty shitty (she's a hot ass stipper for god's sake!) and i was kinda confused and then she emails me the next day...i hold off responding for a sec cause i'm confused and then she sends me another email late at night telling me to call her so i did and she tells me how she wants to "cuddle" etc... and i'm kinda acting a little distant maybe cause i'm confused about what the hell she wants ands then all of a sudden she turns on me like that and doesn't want anything to do with me whatsoever... and now she won't respond to my emails or calls...what the hell can i do to get her again cause i totally want to party with her!

Thanks man... help me!
want more of her

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, your problem is simple. YOU SPENT TOO MUCH TIME TALKING TO HER AT THE BEGINNING.

As a rule of thumb, when you first meet a girl, DON'T talk to her more than once or twice a week, and don't SEE her more than once or twice a week. If you're chatting online, don't chat more than a couple of times a week. And DON'T talk for hours and hours and hours in ANY of these situations!

Why not?

Because when you talk for hours, you start talking about all kinds of WUSSY things. Do yourself a favor next time...
After a woman comes over to your house and gets physical with you, LEAN BACK. Don't call the next day and talk hot and heavy. Give it some time and space.

Here's one of my favorite quotes:
"Give her the gift of missing you."

I love that quote. I wrote it.
OK, I think you get the point. Stop acting like a needy WUSS BOY, and start leaning back, being unpredictable, and GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU when you're in a similar situation in the future.

***QUESTION***

David,
Hi i have been reading your newsletter for about two months now and i really wish i could tell you that i've had outstanding success with the cocky and funny approach but im afraid i cant. You see i just cant even picture myself seeing a gorgeous woman somewhere and just starting some kind of conversation with her out of no where like that. I get really nervous around women and never know what to say to them. And i just can't help but see myself get rejected by her and all the different ways she can turn me down. Any suggestions?
M. from AZ

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I have a question for you...
"What if you COULD picture yourself seeing a gorgeous woman somewhere and just starting some kind of conversation with her out of nowhere?"
Is the problem that you can't picture it? Or is the problem that you won't just DO IT?
I mean, what do you think is going to happen?
Do you think that gorgeous women have magical powers and she might turn you into a frog or something?

Here, try this:
Next time you see a beautiful woman, walk over and say:

"Excuse me, can I ask you a question? I'm trying to overcome my shyness, and it's my goal to ask five women today what it takes for them to feel attracted to a man. Do you prefer it when guys try to BUY your attention with gifts and food, or do you prefer it when a guy teases you, makes fun, makes you laugh, and keeps you guessing about what's going to come next?"

Don't even worry about getting emails, numbers, and dates. Just go ask that question.
As a homework assignment, go ask 100 women this question. You'll see that women aren't so scary after all, and you will get some really interesting answers from them. Now, I don't usually advise asking women for advice on women... but in this case I'm not telling you to ask for advice for advice's sake. You're overcoming shyness at the same time. After you ask the first 50, I want you to try something new...

After you ask the question, and she answers, I want you to say "Because, you know, I'm really tired of women just treating me like a piece of meat... like some kind of sex symbol or something. I need to understand what I can do so a woman likes me for WHO I AM!" ...in a serious, sarcastic, Cocky and Funny way.
Watch the responses you get. You'll have fun.

***QUESTION***

Hello David. Well, let me put it this way: I got your book, and it made a HUGE impact on my life. I'd like to assure anyone who doubts you that you are not full of crap, you really know your stuff. Anyway, I have a little problem, and since I feel you've mastered the understanding of the minds of women, I need your help. First of all, I've always had a razor-sharp wit, but I didn't have the confidence to show it to most women, and instead felt sorry for myself that women never got to see the real me. Now, once I was introduced to you and learned the whole cocky routine and seen it's effects, my confidence is sky high. I charm women like you wouldn't believe... while I was happy with this at first, it seems that I have gotten TOO good with women. I know I sound awfully full of myself, but... here's the scoop. When I use my dazzling charm combined with cockiness, new women that i meet CAVE IN to me and become my WHIPPED SLAVE after a short period of time. They lose their sassy and fun personalities, and become obsessed slaves that would do anything to please me. while its sometimes flattering, overall I do not like this. Don't get me wrong, I want them to want me, but I DON'T want them to become my drooling little groupies who think about me when they get up and eat breakfast and are still thinking about me when they get under the covers at night... it seems like their obsessions sap their personality. What I was wondering was whether or not you knew a SPECIFIC BEHAVIOR or trait that i may be amplifying that causes women to react this way... I want to TONE DOWN whatever it is that's getting them to drop their religion and worship me.. any help appreciated. by the way, i am NOT EVEN EXAGGERATING, i really do see myself as TOO sexy and its ANNOYING.. i want women to be challenging again! (P.S: while im not ugly, i sure as hell am not the type of guy that girls whisper and giggle about upon first glance... so don’t attribute any of this to my looks)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, another sad, sad story. Makes me weep. Women chasing you around like groupies and acting like slaves... you poor thing. Well, I do actually know what you're talking about.

Here's the deal...
Most women are used to being in CONTROL of men. And when a guy like you shows up and uses his magical powers of COCKY AND FUNNY, they are taken off guard. You are pressing the ATTRACTION button inside of a woman, which has an interesting side effect when done with Cocky and Funny:
IT MAKES THE WOMAN ACT LIKE A WUSSY!

This is a tough one for most guys to buy, but it's the absolute truth... and you know what I'm talking about. When a woman realizes that she's not going to control you... and in fact, that she's feeling ATTRACTED to you and she doesn't know how to handle you, SHE'LL start getting nervous. And in my experience, there are only a very FEW exceptional women out there in the world. I think that you just need to keep up the search. You'll find yourself a firecracker if that's what you're looking for.

I personally believe that it's important to understand this stuff NOT just because you can meet a lot of women using it...
I think that IT'S TOUGH TO FIND AN EXCEPTIONAL WOMAN these days, and you're probably going to have to date quite a few to find one. Knowing these techniques will help you see through tough exterior female personas, and start making you realize what you actually want in a woman.
You're on the right track, stick with it.

***QUESTION***

Hello, I do agree with the Cocky Funny in theory. However for me it is proving to be difficult in practice. One of the biggest hurdles for me seem to be the initial walkup. I am a very shy, nervous, and easily embarrassed person. Often when I see a beautiful women my heart starts to thump and my hands sweat, and face goes red. I have had 2 opportunities in the past few weeks where I had women come up to me to ask me for something, once for directions, and once for a light. I can think of a few things after these happened, like I could have told the girl asking for a lighter "those things are bad for you, you know"....The girl asking for directions was a golden opportunity missed, I could have been more detailed and then got her email, but instead I just kind of froze up and gave her quick instructions. When this happens I start to get regrets and beat myself up for not thinking more on my toes.

I do think that places outside of nightclubs are good, because women don't expect it, and you catch them off guard, but I was on the tub this morning (subway in the USA) and saw this absolutely stunning Brazilian, I thought perhaps I could do the "are you single, my friend would like you" but all the people around me made me hesitate and put it off. If I had done it right at the beginning instead of oogling her in disbelief I probably could of done it.

For me at this point, just to make an attempt would be good to give me a boost. I realize I have become such a wuss. How do I get out of this nervous rut which keeps me from going for the women of my dreams.

J.P in London

>>>MY COMMENTS:

If it freaks you out too much to approach women in public, then figure out how to meet them in other ways. Get online and start instant messaging women...
Go to a pottery or yoga class (if those things interest you)...
Get a part-time job as a bartender.
Take dance lessons.
There are all kinds of great ways to meet women...

By the way, one of the best things you can do is get together with a friend, and go out for a day and meet 50 women. Just approach every single woman you see and use one of the techniques you've learned.
Then go do it again.

You might get sick the first 5 times, depending on how deeply-rooted your fears are, but this will help you get over it. Part of the problem is that you don't know what to expect. It sounds to me like you really don't know how women will respond to you. By approaching a lot of women one day, you'll find out that women are usually pretty nice, and you'll be able to handle whatever happens. Otherwise, use one of the ideas I gave you above to make meeting women easier. It might be a good place to start.

***QUESTION***

Now then Dave,
I'll keep it short but first want to echo the feelings of everyone else on this e-mail by thanking you, your advice is seriously changing my life. Your stuff is great for people you've just met or that don't know you to well. However, I've just got back in contact with a girl I used to work with 8 months ago. We got on great and regularly went for coffee on our lunch breaks, so knew each other well. The only problem was that at the time she was in a relationship, so I had to fight the attraction I felt towards her. I have now found out that this has recently finished and want to make a move on her in the near future before someone else snaps her up. I've been 'cocky and funny' with her since we met, so that
approach may be less effective than usual. Can you please give me some tips in how to take this further than just friendship.
RW
England

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, first I have to ask you... Does she feel ATTRACTION for you?
When you talk to her now, does she flirt with you?
Next time you talk to her, say:
"You know, I know you want me. It took you 8 months to finally get up the nerve to admit it, huh?"

See what she says. Bust on her and tease her about how you know she's been trying to figure out how to get with you all this time, and see how she responds. Then, when you're alone with her, lean back, bust on her, have fun, etc. When you're alone, use the Kiss Test. You'll figure it out soon enough.
Just make sure you don't ASK her. No, no, no.
No Wussy behavior please!

***COMMENT***

Hi David,
I have only one word for you to start with, and I guess you know in which context to place it:
==> "Damn" <==

When I was reading your book, say about a month or 4 ago, I thought to my self, this wisenoze thinks he knows it all, I hope he don't expect me to believe all that sh**.
Now, 3 months later, I must confess......"Damn"
E., Belgium

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, thank you.
I think.

***QUESTION***

hey david
u really know what ur talkin about, this stuff works like a charm. In your last news letter you had a girls email in it, and she said that she would fall over and open her legs for any man who used the c&f whether he was GOOD LOOKING or NOT. so my question is how much does looks really matter. lets say u got pimples like crazy and ur really fat and u have hair all over ur body (not that i have a lot of this) can u still attract hot girls if you've mastered the cocky and funny stuff? thats my question. i was just wondering. thanx.
J from IN

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Let's see...
I don't think that if you're fat, have pimples like crazy AND have hair all over your body that Cocky and Funny will work. Maybe if you JUST have hair all over and pimples, or pimples and you're fat, OR EVEN hair all over and fat. But all three? No, I don't think so.

Cocky and Funny is really intended for the slim, hairless, and those of clear complexion. What the hell kind of question is this?

If you're fat, pimply, and hairy, then I think you might want to stop eating so much Pizza Hut, and maybe take a shower or something. Maybe some Oxy for the zits, man. "OK, OK, let's say that you're REALLY ugly... like worse than the Pre-Cogs in Minority Report... And let's say that you have a REALLY REALLY small wiener... And let's say that you're a total dumb-ass...

WILL COCKY AND FUNNY STILL GET YOU A DATE WITH 47 PLAYBOY PLAYMATES EVERY WEEK?"

If you wish for me to make fun of you further in front of an audience of thousands, feel free to email again.

***QUESTION***

I've got a great success story I'd like to share... more like 20, and that's not an exaggeration! But I also need some help. Then I'm gonna bust on you some! Yeah you Yoda! For those of you who haven't got this book yet, get it! I got burned on 2 other books before I got smart and got Double Your Dating, and Bridges is absolutely a must read!!! For those of you who get Dave's emails and haven't gotten the book.. and maybe you've gotten lucky by scoring a few emails and numbers and then choke cuz you don't know what to do next I've got 2 words for ya....HA! HA!

Get off the fence and get his books! They work!!! As for the guy who is 50 and wonders if it will work for him and if he can date young sexy babes...Duhhh.

I'm 47, only average looks, and in the last 3 months have gone out with babes from 27 to 47. I even had one gorgeous 32 year old take me to lunch! Take Me!!!! It turned into an all day date, with me leaving her place the next morning. Again, you need to read Bridges!

It happened just cuz I busted on her when every one else was drooling over her and buying her drinks and telling her she was beautiful, blah, blah, blah. She was singing Desperado at a karaoke bar with about 8 cowboys drooling all over themselves and hovering around her. She is drool worthy, a true "10" a gorgeous face and a body that is straight out of Playboy, she does some modeling part time.

I was trying to figure out an approach when she happened to turn and looked right at me, so I got off my bar stool went over and said "Can I ask you something?" She said "Sure, what?" I then asked "Are you going to sing any more Eagles songs?'" She says " I guess I can do a request" (semi-teasing). I say "Then please don't sing any more Eagle songs, cuz I really like them", then I turned and walked back to my bar stool. Almost immediately I heard "Hey a**hole!!!" I turned and there she was, madder than hell, I started cracking up- she started laughing too, sat down with me...and the rest is history.

I've gone from dating an occasional 6 or 7 up to 8's and 9's regularly!!! (at least one a week). I go to one particular bar regularly, and it has proven to be a gold mine for me. 8's and 9's a plenty. So here is my problem. There are four "10's" that have recently started coming in to the bar that I want to meet, but I choke when it comes to approaching. I totally freeze.

I'm afraid if one of the "10's" shoots me down, the 8's and 9's will notice. I get numbers and / or leave with an 8 or 9, but am kicking myself on the way out for not taking the chance with the "10's".

I don't want to blow it at this place, since I've become popular there with most of the women. (all this in 3 months!!!!) Is it better to stick with good looking babes, or do you go for broke with the awesome mega babes? (what a great problem to have right?) I've been very lucky at this place, and have only been "shot down" once when I first started going in. What would you do Dave?

Now to bust on you....when are you coming to Texas? Seminars is LA and NY? Why not Dallas? I'll be the first one in line to buy a ticket!
Happy but Frustrated

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're doing such a great job... don't turn into a WUSS now! The way you busted on that woman with the Eagles songs was great. Just keep it up. Attractive women can smell fear. You have absolutely NOTHING to lose by talking to the "10s". Here, try this. Next time you're out at the bar, ask one of your friends to rate the "10s".

You'll find that your friends don't think that all of them are 10s. We each have different taste, and YOU just happen to think that these women are 10s. I can guarantee you that there are other guys who think that they're 7s or even 5s.

Getting "shot down" is a state of mind.

I prefer to feel sorry that a woman has missed out on an incredible experience... not that I was "shot down". And if a woman is actually RUDE to you, just laugh. Say "Oh, sorry... you looked like you might be an interesting person, but I was obviously mistaken." Feel bad for her, and move on.
In other words, keep up the great work.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave. I am a younger one. 18 to be exact. I am interested in this book because I have never really been a ladies' man. I am somewhat above average height; 6'1", and I weigh 205 lbs. I am not a bad looking guy, but I just get really tense around women. (You've probably heard this before) After I say hi, I'm clueless. Can you help me Dave? Are these techniques as good as they sound? (Your newsletters seem quite convincing) Please help out one of your youngest romantically retarded friends. Thank you.
PS: If this does work as well as you say, then expect to hear a success story from me.
P. J. K.
San Francisco, CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I know what you're talking about. I used to be VERY tense when it came to women. I could be out in a public place, and a woman could even START THE CONVERSATION WITH ME... and I didn't know what to do. I always felt like I need to say something that would "impress" a woman... or act "cool" so she'd like me. I went through this for most of my adult life, actually.

I can't say that my techniques will absolutely work for you without question. You're the one that has to use them...
But I will say that if you get out there and try them, I think you'll find that they work better than anything else, and that you'll have more success than you have now. It took me YEARS to really figure out what women respond to, and I really believe that ANY guy can use the material to attract women.

Depending on just HOW shy or nervous you are, you might need to get that handled... but once you start working with the ideas, I think you'll be VERY pleased with the results.

And I've created a few specific educational tools so you can learn this skill... right from the comfort of your own home. You'll review this material SEVERAL times before you'll stop learning from it... and in fact, you'll probably keep reviewing the material FOREVER.

And if you haven't downloaded your copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating" yet... then what are you waiting for? You can download it right now and be reading it within a few minutes. Really. It's here:
http://www.doubleyourdating.info/ebook

I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David D.